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Spend time alone together. Most couples get busy with their careers and they get home exhausted. If the couple has kids than everything is even more complicated. In an informal poll with my friends, most couples with kids had not gone out to dinner alone "in years". Of course, babysitters you can trust are hard to find and they also cost money, these are valid issues. Your marriage, though, is something you should not neglect. Going out alone only with your partner once a month does wonders for the health of your relationship long term. Yes, your children are hollister important, but they need to see how both parents value each other as well. This is how children will model their own future relationships, right? Let your children know that they are loved, but also explain to them that you need time for yourself as well. You are your partner do not need to go to an expensive restaurant. 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