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The Third Power, Part I
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The First major component of self-esteem is basic Worth,
which is the First Power. The Second Power is Competence.
Both of these have been discussed in other articles,
some of which are on this specific article directory.
The Third Power is Ego Strength, and it is comprised of
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and then some of the thoughts engender feelings. This is
the grist for our mills, so to speak. This is the working
material with which we will assert ourselves, or not.
The second step of assertiveness is about deciding whether
what we think or feel is important. If our thoughts come
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your work, because it is about fantasizing and planning how
we might express ourselves, not that we have something I
mportant to express. We might say something to someone,
or send an email, or do something dastardly (which would be
aggressive, not assertive). Regardless, we make a plan.
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about assessing our success and deciding whether or not we
are done with that particular thought or feeling.
I rushed through the five steps of assertiveness because
I've written other articles about this specific subject, and
also because I wrote a separate whole ebook on just this
subject, detailing and elaborating on these and many related
principles, including how to be assertive. For now, it is
important to recognize that assertiveness plays a crucial role
in developing self-esteem. Without speaking up one does not
have a sense of self or other-mastery. Without doing things
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similar experiences, most of the time. There are exceptions
to the latter because sometimes it is enough to just fully
experience ourselves in the moment (mindfulness) without
burdening others with descriptions of our inner experiences.
If we habitually devalue our thoughts and feelings even if
they are clear, up front and present, we still experience
diminution of self. We are saying to ourselves, "Nice
thought or feeling-so what?" In this scenario, we are not
very important, despite the richness of our inner experience.
If we fail to develop a plan of action to express
ourselves, again, we devalue ourselves. This time, the venue
is not so much internal as external. We fail to fully
interact with the real work, that real outside of our inner
zone. This tends to reinforce introversion, which by itself
is not so bad, but as a psychological habit, is less
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The Third Power, Part IArticle Summary: This Power is the third of four powers that comprise Self-Esteem. The author has written a very comprehensive ebook that explains all four; more importantly, how to raise Self-Esteem. This is a new way of thinking about low Self-Esteem, which is pandemic.
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